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Mercury Retrograde (Video)

Well, Mercury definitely did me in on this one!! I have been struggling all day with trying to get this video on the blog so that I could get it posted! (Ok, I will totally own the fact that I was trying to upload my first video to the blog during a Mercury Retrograde, but still – BEASTY!!)

Here are pertinent links to some stuff we discussed on the video.

 

Carolina Conjure is an excellent blog dealing with hoodoo and Southern Conjure. Here is a link to the article I mentioned in the video. (The blog is written by Rev. Carolina Dean, a two-headed preacher and folk magician.  This is one of my all time favorite blogs!)

Jordan Cooper’s website is www.WarriorOfLight.us. (Be sure to click here and like him on Facebook as well.)

Jordan is one of the in-house readers at Knight Light Candle Company in Oak Park, Michigan.  Here is a link to their Facebook page.

I just changed some stuff around on my Readings page, and added an Online Store through Square to the site. In addition to the readings and psychic art, I’ll be listing some of my art and handcrafted spiritual goods on there soon.  Be sure to check it out!

My website, www.EligeStewart.com, is a fantastic site designed by a talented web designer James Wortz. Be sure to check it out, but the most up to date information is usually listed my blog pages.

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Journaling the Shadow

This is an excerpt from a book that I wrote several years and never got published.  This is a reflection on my late teens and early twenties, and how it resonated with the Sacral Chakra.  Following is an exercise to help you journal your shadow self.  Please enjoy the bits of youthful wisdom and the journaling exercise!

Most of the time lessons aren’t pleasant to live through.  Frequently, we look back and learn from what we don’t want to happen to us again!  We like to call these things ‘mistakes’.  But, how can it be a mistake if we’ve learned a lesson from it?

 Don’t look at your past and regret.  Look at your past and learn.

I felt so much shame during this part of my life.  I hid so much of my life from so many people.  I couldn’t tell my mother about how I made my living at one point.  I couldn’t really date.  I was petrified of what people would think of me.

Then I realized that it doesn’t matter what others think of me; what really matters is what I think of myself.  I finally was starting to understand that Shame plays no valid role in my life.

Be proud of all that you are and everything that you do.  If you can’t be proud, it isn’t an indicator that you should be ashamed of what you do.  It may be an indicator that it’s time to change an action or situation in your life.

I was frequently troubled by the people that surrounded me then.  I saw so many people that I didn’t wish to be like.  I also met some amazing people that I never thought that I could be like.  It wasn’t until I had distanced myself from the experiences of that time that I realized: We are all reflections of one another.

 When I saw an addict, that man was me.  When I ‘hated’ the drill instructor in boot camp for being cruel, I was actually hating my own cruelty.  When I pitied the people that I’d see, I was really pitying myself.

We are all so intrinsically connected, and all that we experience as reactions to another person is simply a reflection of a part of yourself.  By realizing this, you move your awareness and intention to a place of compassion.  The truest form of love and compassion is self love and self acceptance.

Journaling the Darker Half

Each of us has a shadow self.  All lights cast shadows, even the lights of our spirit.  To truly understand ourselves, we need to be in touch with both the light and it’s shadow.  I find the easiest and most comfortable way to do this is through journaling.  This eliminates the need for judgment and allows the shadow to claim a space on the page that is external to the writer.

Calm your mind at the end of the day.  You may wish to ground and center before doing this exercise.  Sit with your journal in front of you, making two columns on the page. Close your eyes and bring to mind something that agitated you, made you feel ashamed, made you angry or sad, or gave you another emotional reaction that you were uncomfortable with.  Write it down, and in the next column write how it made you feel. Repeat this, allowing everything to come pouring out.  You will want to repeat this part of the exercise for several days.  I like to do it for a full lunar month – new moon to new moon.  

            The longer you do this for, you start to notice a cycle in the columns.  There are certain themes that appear and reappear.  Your shadow will seem to wax and wane while you are journaling it.  Once you have journaled the shadow for the given time that you allotted, look through the different days entries.  Find an emotional reaction that appeared more frequently.  Ground, center, and surround yourself with white light.  While feeling relaxed, keep your eyes closed with your journal open to a new page in front of you.  Now, ask yourself “What lesson does (shadow emotion) have to teach me?  What can I learn from this situation?”  Journal the immediate response that comes to you, even if it sounds silly or seems unconnected.  Keep writing until the impulse seems to wane. Close the journal and review the entry at a later time.  You may wish to repeat this part of the process a few times, with several of the emotions that you’d experienced.

The trick to benefiting from this exercise is to suspend self judgment.  Everyone experiences shadow emotions.  Once you become aware of what it is that you’re experiencing, you will likely be surprised at your reactions.  The shadow exists to help us learn lessons about ourselves.  By journaling the shadow, we help the process to be a little bit easier.

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Psychic Art versus Spirit Art

Many folks don’t even realize that there’s a difference between psychic art and spirit art. Well, there is.  Psychic art deals with the energy of the sitter predominantly, whereas spirit art conveys more of a message from the spirit world.  Not only is there a difference between psychic art and spirit art – there are multiple kinds of each!

Just as every psychic, medium and artist has their own approach, each psychic/spirit artist has their own take on how they bring their art forward. A person can connect with a psychic spirit artist and receive vastly different works by the same person depending on what it is that they are seeking.  I’ll share an example of this in just a few moments, but first let’s cover some of the different kinds of psychic and spirit art that is offered.

Psychic Art

An Auragraph is a deceptive term. Auragraphs are actually visual representations of what clairvoyants pick up. You can think about it as a pictorial representation of the impressions flashing through the psychic’s mind. (The term ‘auragraph’ was coined by the psychic artist Harold Sharpe, and the technique is more widespread in the Spiritualist readers in the UK.)

Aura Drawings are probably what you were originally thinking of when I mentioned the auragraph.  Aura drawings are artistic renderings of the energy field around your body.  This is an excellent technique to engage in for the purposes of energy healing, and to map the movement of energy immediately surrounding you.

Precognitive art is not something typically sought after, but more something that sometimes happens.  Those with an artistic mindset tend to be more tuned in to their intuition than a lot of folks.  That being said, it isn’t uncommon for an artist to produce a piece that turns out to be a scene or an object that plays out later on (sometimes centuries later).  For instance, Leonardo DaVinci’s famous ‘flying machine’ could be be argued to be a psychic impression of the helicopter.

Remote viewers also produce ideograms and renderings, but this isn’t necessarily thought of as psychic art.  The pictures produced by remote viewers are more like gesture drawings, or crude maps to help delineate the impressions that they are receiving.

Manifestation Mandalas are a form of psychic spirit art that I’ve developed to give a visual point focal point to aid in the process of manifestation.  I go into reading for the person and we determine what goal they are working towards manifesting. I connect with their guides and we bring into being a visual representation of that energy for the person to focus on during meditation (and during their everyday life as well) to help reinforce the presence of that energy.  This magnetizes the person’s energy field to draw the goal closer even faster, while helping them to maintain their focus. Remediation Mandalas are along the same premise, but are more focused on remedying a challenge energy, and are usually connected to astrological aspects that a person is experiencing. (I frequently will use the shapes made in a person’s natal chart as inspiration for Remediation Mandalas.)

Spirit Art

Much of the spirit art that I do tends to be sketches of Spirit Guides.  I find these to be helpful

Spirit art is more directly influenced by spirits, and is usually a pictorial representation of a spirit communicator or guide.  Most of the time, spirit artists seem to have a different style of rendering the portraits between guides and spirit communicators. Many times, a guide is able to more readily and clearly convey the form that they take.  This has to do with the fact that spirit guides are ‘trained’ and accustomed to interacting with the those in the physical realm in a way that many spirit communicators simply are not able to do. In short, guides can communicate more clearly with mediums because they are better at going back and forth between here and the less tangible world of Spirit.

A commissioned piece of spirit inspired art is when a person asks for a rendering of a particular spirit.  This differs from spirit guide drawings because in a spirit guide drawing the guide themselves are the ones initiating the contact.

Spirit portraits focus on portraying loved ones and spirits that have passed on.  I find evidential portraiture very difficult because of how I communicate with spirits.  During a sitting, I connect with the spirit and while I describe the person I am impressed with their features individually, but not as a complete picture. (For instance, I’ll see a pointy nose, then the color and shape of the eye, then a particular hairstyle, but not necessarily all on one person.)  Most of the spirit portraiture I do tends to be from spirits that approach me, and not during a reading.  Many of these spirits actually haven’t yet crossed fully into the Otherworld, and this form of portraiture I tend to do alone and in silence.  The trance state that overtakes me while doing these portraits is not really conducive to performing a reading.  I also tend to get lost in time doing these.

Let’s See What You Mean

A colleague of mine has agreed to let me use some of the work I’ve done for him as an example in this post. While these are not necessarily what I’d share as the best examples of my work, they do illustrate the point of difference between the different forms of art.

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This is an auragraph that I did in the space of about 15 minutes (typically I alot 40 minutes for an auragraph drawing, but I was trying to see how feasible it was to do an auragraph for mini readings. The answer is – not feasible at all.) Here you can see a gesture drawing in the middle of man sleeping, as well as the figure of a phoenix/peacock and another fiery figure above. The colors emanating around the head are indicative of healing, and the general theme of this reading was the need for rest to rejuvenate and finding inspiration.

 
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Here is another auragraph drawn for guidance on a particular situation. This is from a 30 minute session, so still a bit rushed, but a very effective piece conveying a message of direction and balancing all of the different aspects of life.

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This is an inlay of a particularly feisty guide of a fay persuasion connected with this person. This rendering was done in under ten minutes while the guide was giving suggestions to help bring more joy into his life.

 

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I wasn’t especially fond of the first picture, so I decided to connect with this same guide and produce a new piece. This doesn’t turn out too bad considering that it was my first time using only soft pastels instead of a mix. This took about 30-40 minutes.

Commissioned Spirit Drawing
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This is a picture of Oya, the Orisha of Wind and Cemeteries.  The same colleague asked me to connect with Oya and draw her for his altar.  This came from a thirty minute sitting. (Once again, I prefer about 40-45 minutes at least for most forms of psychic or spirit art sittings.)

 

Manifestation Mandala

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This is a mandala that his guides inspired me to create for self love.  This piece was completed in about 35-40 minutes.

As you can see from the four pieces above, you can get wildly different pieces depending on what you are asking for.  Most of these are just sketches that accompany readings, but you can see how varied these pieces can be.

Spirit Portraiture

These are portraits of spirits that weren’t completed during readings. The first is the spirit of a man who came to me late one evening and wished to be drawn.  The second is of a woman who had passed of breast cancer and came through in a gallery reading. Unfortunately, nobody present claimed her so she came home with me for a minute until I decided to draw her (which frequently helps me to release the spirit from my energy.)

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Just Because

This is a picture that I’m working on for Hekate, Lady of the Crossroads and Bearer of the Torch.  She and I have a long history and I was inspired to draw her the other day.
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And finally, this is a manifestation mandala that I did for myself with a focus on abundance.  I titled the piece ‘Germinating’, and I figured that this was a good piece to wrap up on.  Having a clear idea of the different expressions of psychic and spirit art can give you a good idea what is possible during a psychic/spirit art sitting, as well as the direction you may want to grow towards with your own mediumship or art.

 

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Brightest Blessings!

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When someone you love is on a healing journey

This article takes a harsher tone and uses coarser language than I normally would take in a writing piece. I’ve chosen not to edit them out to help convey the gravity of my vantage point on this topic.

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In this wonderful and amazing world of metaphysical adventure, I sometimes notice some things that truly disturb me.  Most of these things seem to revolve around healing.  Specifically, the observations that disturb me are centered around people’s expectations of healing, and the willingness some people have to chime in to explain how someone else’s healing process can be improved.  I feel the need to share some hard truths that aren’t always addressed in metaphysical or spiritual circles.

For starters, someone else’s healing process is none of your business. If someone is gracing you with enough trust to share their healing process, then feel blessed.  If they aren’t asking your opinion, then please assume that it isn’t welcome, warranted, or helpful. If you are invited to share in their healing journey, remember that you are a guest – not the host.  Stay in your lane.

This isn’t to say that you can’t share your perspective or insight – IF YOU ARE INVITED TO DO SO.  Most of the time what’s needed most is a listening ear.  Being able to talk things out can help the healing journey more than anything shared from an outside person.  That simply can’t be done if when your loved one is trying to weigh their need to express themselves against the onslaught of opinion and directive (which they probably recognize as well meaning and from a place of love).

Here’s the truth that you already know from personal experience, but most likely need reminding about when it applies to someone else: Until a person is ready to listen to someone else’s perspective on their life, your opinion/insight/experience/etc. is most likely falling on deaf ears, no matter how brilliant and life changing it may be.  What’s more, if you share your perspective when someone isn’t ready to hear it yet, your words stand a really good chance of becoming background noise.  If your words become background noise, then no matter how many times you say it in however many different ways, your perspective will remain unrelatable. Don’t think that by saying your piece more frequently, more loudly, or more dramatically will make your perspective heard – it’s not about how you’re sharing! It’s about the timing of being able to accept and incorporate another person’s insight. All of the convincing in the world can’t make someone ready to hear and actually consider something when they aren’t ready to.

Let’s change the focus for moment here: What is your true motivation for sharing with your friend or loved one?  Yes, I know it’s because you don’t like seeing them in pain or suffering.That’s a given.  (If you did like to see them suffer, then you are sick sociopathic fuck that doesn’t deserve their friendship or adoration.) Why else? Does watching their journey evoke the feelings of your own struggles? Is your reaction from a place of fear on their behalf? Or do you just think that you can deal with their struggles better than they are at the moment?

A fear based reaction is still a fear based reaction, regardless of how founded your fears may be.  Fear does not support healing.  If you actually desire a person’s healing, projecting your fears onto them is not going to be supportive.  It’s natural to worry; we all do it (some more than others).  While energetically, this isn’t the most supportive thing you can do, in the end a little bit of worry isn’t something that’s terribly detrimental. It’s actually perfectly natural.  It becomes detrimental when you let the worry into the driver’s seat, and feel the need to for someone else to have the same level of concern as you.  When you worry to this degree, on some level you aren’t trusting that the person you’re worrying about is able to take care of themselves.  What most people going through healing really need is your confidence, not your concern.

If you are reacting from a place that evokes your own fears, or you think that you’re better equipped to handle the situation, then it’s really time to let them focus on their own healing journey while you work on your own.  These two perspectives boil back down to ego, and frequently ego is rearing it’s head to hide an area of abrasion that you could still use some work on.  Notice that I’m not necessarily saying that you’re wrong – you may ACTUALLY be better equipped to handle the situation that they are going through.  That said, it still isn’t your journey, and no true healing is done by another’s hand.  Empathizing and letting the person know that you’ve survived a similar healing journey is appropriate.  This let’s them know where to turn once they are ready to ask for help or direction. Giving the person unsolicited direction on how to ‘best cope’ – not ok, probably not welcome, and likely not even heard.

Another point that seems like a natural response is to try to distract the person from what’s going on in their life.  This sometimes works, and many times it does not.  When it fails on an epic scale is usually when a person chooses to try a distraction because another person’s healing moment is making them uncomfortable.  Guess what – a lot of shit makes a lot of people uncomfortable! If someone trusts you enough to bring it up with you, then don’t shut them down because it makes you a bit squeamish.  (Or if you have to, own up to it and just say that you’re uncomfortable talking about whatever was making you feel that way. If they have the balls to talk about what they’re going through, you should at least have the respect to speak plainly about how it makes you feel.)

So what can you do for someone that’s at a tough point in their healing journey?  I know that it seems like your hands are completely tied, but healing and growth are messy, sticky, crazy and generally fucked up situations.  There’s nothing easy about either experience.  That said, there are things you can do. Listen. Empathize. Support their ability to take charge of their journey.  Love them. Call them out on when they cross boundaries (which frequently happens while we are in a moment of healing/growth crisis). Sit through the uncomfortable parts.  Forgive.  Hold space.  While this may all seem passive, it’s actually a huge token of effort for most people.

We’ve all had moments in life where we’ve been through something that makes us feel like we were just sandpapered in all of our vulnerable bits.  We have all taken journeys through healing and expansion that affected pretty much every aspect of our lives.  And yes, we may look back and think ‘I wish that someone would have said this to me when I was going through that part of my journey……’ Here’s the only catch – would you have listened? Would you have accepted someone’s unsolicited advice? Would you be able to recognize the wisdom in someone else’s words when you were in the depths of your journey? (And if you categorically say yes, then I’m going to give you a sarcastic round of applause while contemplating whether your just a fucking liar or if you are truly that deluded.)

It’s human nature to challenge. It’s natural to have to ‘learn the hard way’. There’s nothing wrong with ‘learning the hard way’, as long as you’re learning.  None of us are immune to either side of this struggle. We all have loved ones that we want to help, and I’ve done more than my fair share of spouting off my advice from the bottom of heart. My point is that you can’t really help until the person is ready for it (and they get to decide when they are ready for it). And if you feel that it is your civic duty to espouse your wisdom whether it’s been invited or not, you aren’t really looking to help a friend. You’re basically looking to found a cult based around your righteous indignation.

Happy healing, and Brightest Blessings.

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My thoughts on the Orlando Shootings

It takes a lot to stun me, to bring me to my knees.  It takes a lot before I open up and really share through writing. It takes something really huge happening on the world stage before I feel the need to address it.  The shootings in Orlando are that something.

I put a lot of spin on my formative years to make it more palatable.  ‘I was homeschooled because I caught mono in the ninth grade, and then it was just easier to finish high school being homeschooled.’  While that’s the truth, it’s a very colored and edited version of it.  I was relieved when I ended up in the emergency room with a dangerously high fever and my throat swollen nearly to the point of cutting off my breathing.  I was relieved because that meant that I didn’t have to go back to school, back to the beatings and the harassment and general hell that my life had become.

Some would say that my life was difficult growing up in a small town in rural Virginia being openly gay at thirteen.  Some have asked what it was like coming out of the closet, but in truth, I was never really in the closet. I hate the comments that frequently followed that about being so brave to be so open and unashamed! Honestly, my courage was born from innocence, because I had an amazing mother who never once gave me the slightest idea that being anything less than who I am is an acceptable choice, so I naturally thought the rest of the world would follow suit. It did not.

I was gaybashed in school to the point that I had lockers pushed over on me while I was getting ready for gym class. I was harassed by day, yet in the evening the same boys that would harass me would give me the privilige of sucking them off.  I attended a homecoming game, and while I was waiting for my mother to pick me up I was attacked by a group of guys that numbered somewhere around a dozen.  I’m not convinced that I wouldn’t have died had my mother not pulled into the parking lot and actually hit one of them with her jeep.  I remember that attack so well because that was the first time I wore makeup – to hide the bruises.

And that’s where we reach a core issue.  Instead of healing our hurts, we cover them up so that nobody will see them. We don’t talk about them.  We keep them in the shadows, like pain is something to be ashamed of. We don’t talk about the fact that as a society we are still so scared of anything that challenges the structures that have been in place by archaic notions of what defines each and every person. We wear the hat that society dictates. Stay in your lane. Don’t make waves.

When a tragedy like this happens, everyone clamors to lay claim.  It’s terrorism to feed Islamaphobia. It’s a shooting, so it lends fodder to the anti-gun arguments.  Oh, and be sure to not straight-wash this – it was obviously a hate crime against the LGBTQ community. This disturbs me so deeply that I struggle to find words for it, because first and foremost, the victims of this were people.

Watching this happen makes me think of Christianity.  The main symbol of modern Christianity is the cross – the torture device meant to punish and kill Jesus.  Why couldn’t it be the vesica pisces? Why not a chalice to represent the holy grail? Why a cross?  That’s just morbid to me. In the same line of thinking, why do we need a tragedy to unify us a community? WHY DO WE NEED SOMETHING SO TRAUMATIC TO REMIND US TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER?

Don’t get me wrong, the cross has a lot of meaning to me, but it represents something completely different. My cross to bear is that of the crossroads – a symbol of choice. In the struggles I encountered in my youth, my mother didn’t let me be a victim.  She helped me find a youth group for gay teens, then she supported me (insisted actually) as I decided to make a difference and speak in the Virginia House of Representatives and at the Virginia Teachers’ Association. She told me, “If the world sounds cold and cruel, it’s up to you to change the dialogue.”  Right now, I’m standing at the crossroads making a very conscious choice to change the dialogue.

Hate is only going to perpetuate hate.  Blame is a limitless resource.  I’m choosing to love.  I love and forgive Omar Mateen. I hope that I’m never put in the situation that would make me understand what motivated him to this heinous act. I pray for him, and for victims of the shooting.

I pray that we can find a way to create a culture that values dignity, diversity and uniqueness. I pray and bring into being a life filled with an array of different people with different viewpoints than my own, where I am challenged to grow by others that hold a wholly separate way of understanding the world. I pray that I am strong enough to greet each perspective without fear or judgment.

I am choosing to love higher. I am choosing to forgive. I am choosing to be the person that I looked up to when I was younger. I am choosing growth.

Sometimes I’m conveniently “too sensitive” to tolerate large crowds, and it’s true that I can become overwhelmed by all of the emotions and impressions flowing at me. But if I’m completely honest, I’m more overwhelmed by anxiety and fear that I may be attacked. When the man I loved held my hand in public once, I cried in the bathroom when we got home because my nerves were shot. I have been to see my family twice in the past decade because I still feel like I’m going to throw up when I think of returning to where I grew up.  This is not the world I want to live in.  This is not the world I want for the next generation or the generations to come. I want the world I grew up in twenty years ago to be distant outdated memory that has less modern equivalency than women’s suffrage. I want to live in a world that is driven by love and not by fear.  But for that to happen, the dialogue has to change, and for the dialogue to change we all have to share our voices.

This is my voice.  What is the world that you are speaking for?

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Empaths and Manifesting Part 4

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For the purposes of this article, consider ritual as an action that you repeat to help alter your mindset and to help facilitate a certain goal to become manifest. (Think of your bedtime ritual, and how that helps to set the stage for you to unwind and go to sleep.) Ceremonies are any form of conscious action to mark the passage or creation of something you desire.  Wedding ceremonies, birthdays, graduation parties – these are ALL forms of ceremony. They celebrate triumphs, and they ‘make it more real’. A lot of people are intimidated by the word ‘ceremony’ and ‘ritual’. Let’s take a look at each of these as a tool for manifesting from the empath’s perspective.

Ceremonies

Let’s start by dismissing the pomp and circumstance around ceremony.  Ceremonies are something that is completely accessible and useful to everyone. To do this, try thinking of the ceremony as having two parts: the symbolic planning of an event, circumstance or change you wish to manifest; and the celebration that you’re going to have once it’s achieved.

Consider this for a moment. How much power does a wedding ring have? Not much from a practical perspective. It’s a tiny piece of shiny metal that been shaped into an “o” to slide on one of your digits.  It doesn’t stop bullets or raise the dead; most likely no hobbits or halflings dragged it around the world because it’s metaphysical sway could be too dangerous. But it can be a truly magical little piece of jewelry. It has the power to transform a bachelor into a husband, to symbolize a commitment, to mark the end of a journey alone and the beginning of another journey with another. It is a physical embodiment and representation of Love, specifically the love felt between two individuals and the promise of a life built together.

To ceremonially do something, we essentially are using symbolic items and actions to converse with the Universe to plan out and/or mark the change we want to occur. We are symbolically enacting the occurrence, or you can think of it as energetically planning it. This can take on whatever form you want it to. Mark the actions with the use of dolls. Write a list, poem, or prayer then burn it to release it to the Universe after reciting it.  Try the same with a drawing or some other form of art or craft.  The choices are limitless, and frankly while there are some traditional methods and formats that you can use, it’s more about setting the space as sacred and acting within that sacredness.

The word ‘sacred’ comes from old French or Latin – sacrer (French) or sacrare (Latin) – meaning to consecrate, anoint, make holy, or dedicate.  Setting sacred space then can mean to set a space that is anointed and consecrated with the purpose of finding that which makes us whole (holy) and dedicating ourselves to that pursuit.  To create a sacred space, you basically just have to make the circumstances feel sacred.  This can be done through intent alone, or you can add a few props.

Personally, I like to incorporate candles and incense into my ceremonies.  When I strike a match to light a candle, the sound of the match igniting and the burst of flame immediately bring my senses into that space of magic.  I can feel the air warm from the light and I love watching the flame travel down the wick before settling in once it reaches the wax.  It’s entrancing and intoxicating.  I use a lot of glass encased candles (because they are easy to find and seem safer than pillars or tapers to me) but any kind of candle will do.  I like my fancy specialty candles designed for a particular condition, purpose, or to interact with a particular spiritual force. I equally like my multicolored Chanukah candles. But it isn’t the kind of candle that’s all that important – it’s the setting of the Light.

Candles bring light into darkness. You can visualize/actualize a problem that you’re having as being the wax of a candle, then just watch that Light burn it’s way through those issues. If you see yourself as the flame, then write out your goals and place them under the candle as it burns. Watch the flame grow closer and closer to your desires, shedding more and more light on them until finally reaching them.  Rub yourself down with a tealight candle from head to toe and state that all fear/insecurity/negativity/(however you want to word it) is pressing itself into the wax, then watch as the candle burns away all the junk you were holding in your energy field.

Incense is also a powerful ally in crafting a ceremony.  The sense of smell is most strongly associated with memories, and there is an entire science to healing through the olfactory sense (aromatherapy). Incense has always been considered very sacred.  Incense is mentioned as an offering in many ancient holy books, especially resinous incenses like frankincense and myrrh (both of which are amazingly healing substances).  Frankincense has even been proven to help lift the mood, which is an amazing help when you are seeking to leverage your emotions for manifesting!

Smudging is a practice that originates with Native American culture, and is using the smoke from burning herbs to clear and consecrate a space.  The most commonly used herb is white sage, and the smoke from this plant has actually been studied and proven to help kill harmful germs (so I do a lot of smudging during cold and flu season). That being said, white sage is just one plant that’s been used for this purpose. Native wormood, desert sage, and other plants in the Artemisia family have also been used, including mugwort. A form of mugwort is also used in traditional Chinese medicine in a practice called moxibustion. This is where they use the heat and smoke of burning mugwort that’s been aged, then rolled into a moxa stick, to penetrate and clear blocked energy in the acupuncture meridians.

The act of lighting an incense stick and watching the smoke rise to the Heavens carrying your prayers and desires – this is a truly spiritual experience. It’s hard to not feel the sacredness when you pair this particular tool with a manifesting ceremony. As I’ve said, it doesn’t matter so much what you’re doing; what matters is that you are doing it with intent.

After you finish your ceremony, I find it helpful to start planning that celebration of accomplishment that I mentioned earlier.  I usually like to incorporate a piece of the ceremony into my little celebrations just to tie them together. For example, I did a ceremony to be able to attend a training for mediumship in Maine several years ago.  In the ceremony, I prayed over, blessed and consecrated a tie and a small bag of stones. I carried those stones with me everywhere until I got to Maine, and then once there, I wore the tie out to a celebratory dinner at a restaraunt on the water, and I tossed the stones into the ocean as a symbol of my gratitude for the experience. I also wore the tie on the first day of the intensive workshop.

Timing

To get the most bang for your buck, it’s helpful to honor the tides of time by paying attention to specific timing. Some people use astrology, others use the moon cycles, and some honor the days of the week for having particular affinities.  Here is a very brief listing of timing that you can harness to amplify your intent.

Moon Cycles

New moon – new projects, start of something that you want to grow

Waxing moon – gaining momentum or strength, actively growing your intent

Full moon – reaching your goal, shedding light on a subject, the height of power

Waning moon – decreasing or shrinking obstacles, removing problems, troubleshooting

A Sparse List of Astrological Considerations

Mercury Retrograde – turn your thoughts inward, wrap up loose ends (not for starting new projects)

Sun in your sign (around your birthday) – your personal time to shine, height of personal power

Sun in sign opposite your sign (generally about 6 months from your birthday) – Good time to reflecting on self, seeing the situation truthfully

Eclipses (solar and lunar) – heightened time of power, like a sledgehammer tapping a nail into a board (LOTS of energy)

It’s also helpful to consult an astrologer to see how particular planetary transits are going to affect you personally.

Days of the week

Sundays- joy, happiness, wealth

Mondays – intrsopection, emotions, healing

Tuesdays – vigor, strength, physical healing, energy

Wednesdays – intellect, quick changing moods,fast growth, business
Thursdays – stability, long term growth, shoring up defenses

Fridays – love, beauty, luck (also money since for many it’s payday)

Saturday – structure, cutting away the old, laying things to rest

Pulling it all together

I mentioned that rituals are actions that you repeat to help alter your mindset and to facilitate a certain goal to become manifest. By designing a regularly practiced ritual, you bring yourself into conscious alignment with your desired result. It’s all about bringing it all together! Think of the ritual that you construct for yourself as a healthy habit to reinforce your manifesting ability.  And here is a great way to approach it.

First, start by developing your practice of meditation and introspection. Reflect on your desires.  Start journaling and truly get to the core of what your desire is! Use affirmations to help you align with your purpose.  All of these are things that can (and should) be considered on a daily basis.

Then, construct a ceremony bearing in mind the timing that you want to use to reinforce it. If your goal is a long term one, this is a ceremony that you may want to repeat on a weekly or monthly basis. Keep the timing in mind to help you reinforce your ceremonial purpose.

I like to create my vision boxes in a sacred space, so I frequently will utilize a ceremony when crafting one. I’ll have my candles and incense going as I pray my intention into the project. I also like to bless or pray my intention into any stones or charms that I may carry around during a ceremony.

Most importantly, don’t send your awareness into the future. Bring the future to your present moment! In other words, don’t let these actions place all of your attention on what will eventually happen. Remember that these tools are in place to remind you that the feeling that underpins that situation already exists within your life! Gain access to that feeling and grow it! Fertilize the field in which you’re growing your intent. Feel the feeling, the realizing and actualizing of your desire will follow.

So concludes this little series of articles. I hope that this has shown you what amazing and powerful manifesters that empaths can be.  We journeyed all the way from Delphi, explored some yogic philosophy, discussed crafting tools to aid in the realization of our vision and finally using ceremonies to empower that vision into being. We often forget what a blessing empathy can be. It’s hard to see the bright side when you’re covered in emotional muck, but hopefully this slant on manifesting has given you a bit of a different perspective, or at least got you thinking.

Blessings until next time lovebugs!

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Empaths and Manifesting Part 3

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Out of your Mind and Into your Soul

We are so mistaken when we begin to think that we are our thoughts.  Our thoughts are just a reflection – either reflecting and making sense of our environment, or outwardly reflecting the truth at our core, the substance of our Soul.  It can sometimes be difficult to ascertain which is which, especially for the Empath.  We can take on the truth of others and create our whole world around it without even consciously realizing that’s what we’re doing. Once we recognize our truth, then our focus alone can bring that into being.

The tools that we’re going to discuss are primarily geared to helping refine and shift our focus.  As empaths, we tend to live in our intangible world of emotion. It can be really difficult to harness this and maintain the focus long enough to bring about the changes that we desire. We are also more susceptible to the currents of energy in the world around us, and many times it feels like we’re fighting those currents instead of flowing with them. One of the best tools I’ve learned to assist with that is to pay attention to timing. These are the focal points for the last two posts in the series – Tangibility and Timing.

Make it More Real!

The inner world is the natural habitat of the empath. We live more internally than externally, making the commute back and forth between our hearts and our heads. Many times we will get so caught up in this back and forth of thought to emotion to thought to emotion…that we neglect to fully realize our desires out into the world of the physical. Sometimes it just seems easier to allow our desires to play out as fantasies than to actually work to manifest them.

One of the hardest parts of manifesting for an empath is to keep the focus on par with what it is that you’re bringing into creation.  We can so easily get distracted by the needs/wants/desires of other people that our own get lost in the shuffle (or relegated to the realm of daydreams).  One of the best tools I find for this particular issue is Affirmations.

Affirm and Activate

Here is an easy method for using affirmations.  First, craft the affirmation as an ‘I am’ statement.  For the empath, consider what it is that you’re bringing into creation. Then, consider the emotion that this is feeding. Be sure to also include gratitude in your affirmation . Thankfulness is a powerful key to manifestation! Finally, craft your statement in the present tense that leads with the emotion that generates the manifested result. Let me show you what I mean.

I am so happy and grateful for my job that recognizes my contributions to the company. (or I am so happy and grateful for my workplace that loves and respects me.)

I am so grateful for the love I have with my partner.

I am so thankful and blessed in my new home in the countryside with the fireplace and the polebarn. 

Once you’ve crafted your statement of intent, you need to make it your statement of attent(ion)! In other words, you have to activate it.  Easiest method: Look yourself square in the eye in a mirror and repeat your statement roughly ten times. Do this a few times a day. Then, empath it out! Find the little things in your that bring the same emotion that your statement expressed.  These are the moments that are fueling your rocket of desire out of your mind and into the manifest world. By attaching gratitude to your statement, it becomes a little easier.  Look for what makes you feel grateful.  (And don’t hold out for the world-changing shift to find gratitude! Be grateful for your work supplying real creamer for your coffee instead of the powdered stuff. Find thankfulness that you got a great parking space. Express your thanks for your neighbor smiling at you and wishing you a good morning.)

Keep a watch for the little tokens of the emotional fuel of your affirmation as well. Taking from our examples above, be happy for being able to laugh at the funny joke a coworker told you, or the email you got from a client at work.  Reflect the love that you see between your best friend and their partner (or if everyone you know is single – or should be – then look to Hollywood for couples that embody the type of love that you are looking for. Find a movie that paints the picture of your ideal mate and watch it.) From there, seek out the things that bring more of that feeling. For instance, drive around the countryside and take it in as the feeling of ‘home’.  Take yourself on the date that you want your soon-to-be significant other to take you on.

Accountability is also a great tool to help facilitate the shaping of your world. Tell a trusted friend about what you’re bringing into existence.  When you do this, don’t tell them what you want to do. Tell them that you’re doing it. “I’ve decided that I’m going to move to the countryside and buy a farm.” or “I’m ready for a relationship again and this one is going to knock my socks off.” This helps to bring it further into the manifested reality of your life.  Now somebody knows your intention, and don’t be surprised when they start to help bring that into being with you. We are all emissaries of the Universe and you never know – that friend may tell you about the opening at another company that’s your dream job, or go with you to the open house for your new home.

Now, admittedly many of us have some precursory work to do to help boost our manifesting ability.  (This is a nice way of saying that we’ve all got baggage that may stand in the way to our happiness.) Here’s a test to see how clear your path to manifesting is. Look in the mirror and state this affirmation: I am smart. I am loved beyond reason. I am beautiful. And I am worthy. 

What is your reaction to this? How does it make you feel? Uncomfortable? Do you avoid looking into your own eyes? Does it make you want to cry? Do you feel kind of sick to your stomach when you say it? These are common reactions!! We are taught that we simply aren’t good enough, and that this is the reason why we don’t have nice things.  This is a fantastic affirmation that kick starts our healing process to bring us back on the mark towards being who we really are.

Vision Boxes

The first thing that many people find when they look into manifesting their reality is frequently Vision Boards.  I don’t think that these are particularly effective for empaths.  Why? Because empaths tend to be much more tactile people. This is a blanket statement, of course, but it seems to hold true.  The other downfall of the vision board is that it doesn’t incite action. What do you do with your vision board? You look at it. Then what?…..

I think that we tend to do much better with things like Vision Boxes. Craft a box in the same manner you would a vision board.  Place images on it that bring out the emotion that is fueling your manifestation and that embody the change that you are consciously creating. Put pictures of happy couples on it, or of people happily working, or of the decor that you will have in your new house, etc. Don’t forget about the inside! Line it with felt or satin, or put pictures on the inside of the lid too!

Next, make a commitment that you will place something in the box on a regular basis that brings you closer to your goal.  You want to go on a big vacation? Start placing money inside the box to save for it, but not just the money. Pin the money to a note of what you intend to use that money for on your vacation.  And it doesn’t have to be huge amounts. (I mean, your bank account may be a safer place to store the bulk of your cash). Put in a ten dollar bill with a note that this is to buy your first margarita on the beach.  Find out how much the admission is to the museum you want to go to on your vacation and put that in the box.  You could also put your plane tickets in there once they’re purchased, or even a picture or the receipt for the new swimsuit you just bought. In this way, you are actively working towards that goal and every time you open that box to add your latest ‘donation’, then you will feel the excitement build for that goal!

What happens when your box is all full and you can’t fit anything else in it?  Well, if you’re stashing your money in the box, take the cash and deposit it but leave all of the notes that you attached to it. If it’s full of treasures to support your manifestation, then it may be time to make a bigger box! Each time you make a new box, it’s also a chance to refine your focus and expand your goal.

The Vision Box shows you that you are in fact bringing your desire into reality, and gives you the visible evidence to prove it!

Tokens and Talismans

Some gemstones and crystals can help you manifest your desires more easily.  Citrine, kyanite, red chalcedony and apatite are all in this category. But, as with all things in the art of manifesting, they are most powerful when you pair them with awareness and action. As a matter of fact, the actual token that you use doesn’t have to be made or crafted of any particular material or substance.  It’s far more important that it activates a part of your awareness and helps to bolster your attention.

Gratitude stones or charms can are small simple items that you place in your pocket.  Anytime you touch them, take the space of three breaths to yourself.  The first breath, focus on feeling appreciation and gratitude for whatever is happening in that moment.  With the second breath, find the place of connection with whoever is around you in the moment and think of something that you are grateful for about them.  Third breath, bring to mind what you are manifesting and silently give your thanks for it being a part of your life.  When using the gratitude charm, try to remember to smile.

Another type of token can be a special form of jewelry – a ring, necklace, bracelet, whatever. Whenever you feel a positive emotion that you want to fuel your desire, then touch the piece of jewelry. Conversely, any time you touch, brush or fidget with the piece of jewelry (consciously or if you catch yourself doing it unconsciously) then find something in that moment that evokes a sense of peace, gratitude, joy, or any other positive emotion that can be used to fuel your desire.

These are just a few tools to consider when honing your focus and aligning your emotions with your desires.  In the fourth and final installment of the series we will take a look at using ceremony and ritual to help our manifesting ability.

Click here for Part 4 of the Empaths and Manifesting Series.

 

 

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Empaths and Manifesting Part 2

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Nothing to Excess

When it comes to manifesting, nobody really talks about going overboard, and how if you aren’t clear on what your intentions are, it’s ridiculously easy to sabotage yourself. This is especially true of empaths.  Empaths gravitate towards excess.  If a little is good, then a LOT must be better, right?  Here’s the trouble with that mindset: it’s actually hiding something else.  It’s an easy fix for not being clear on your baseline.  For example, how many people have tried to manifest winning the lottery or just randomly coming across a couple of million dollars? And how many of these people were successful?…….Exactly.

Having a crap ton of money sounds great on paper, but that’s not what most people actually want.  Think about it, will staring at stacks of cash lined up in front of you bring you the sense of joy and satisfaction that you’re attempting to manifest?  (Sure, okay, yes. I get it – you would totally do the super mega happy dance if that happened – who wouldn’t? But, how long will those pieces of paper bring you joy on their own?)  Most folks don’t necessarily want the money itself – they want the freedom that the money represents.

It’s also an easy band-aid for the lazy approach to manifesting.  Let’s say you want to move to Hawaii. What is it that you actually focus on manifesting?……The money to do it. In your mind, the money is the only thing standing in your way. If you had a million dollars, then you would totally move to Hawaii without a second thought! But, what does it take to live in Hawaii? How is it you plan on moving? Are you just going to leave your stuff here and get all new stuff when you move? Where in Hawaii do you want to live? What is it about Hawaii that draws you; does it feel like home, or does it feel like a vacation? Are you looking to move towards the island life, or are you just trying to get away from the life you’ve created where you currently reside?

This ties in to why empaths tend towards excess.  When you take the weight of the world onto your shoulders, you end up trying to escape that weight somehow.  This can be through excessive (sometimes addictive) habits – eating, shopping, even exercise. Empaths swing to the extremes in our actions in an attempt to numb the pain, give a little more ‘cushion’, etc.  The deeper message that you are actually aiming for : “I want to be strong enough/have enough for…..”. In reality, what this is telling the Universe: “I’m not strong enough” or “I don’t have enough”.  Another interpretation is  “I want a situation that gives me permission to not worry about……”.  Guess what – you have that permission.  You don’t need your situation to change to lay those burdens down.  And despite what you may have been taught in this wacky world, worrying and bearing someone’s burden is NOT the same as caring for them. Guilt, burden and worry are not the same as Love, Compassion and Care.

Here’s a little food for thought: Is the third slice of cake any more enjoyable than the first? Notice how I’m in no way suggesting that cake is anything less than a divine experience when done properly. Nor am I even remotely hinting that you should not enjoy some cake. Eat cake to your heart’s content – and that’s the point I’m making.  The heart is content with the first piece of cake.  The second, well, we can let that slide – maybe you’re having a decadent dinner of dessert. In that case, eat away! Enjoy the hell out of it! But in all honesty, are you going to be satisfied by anything less than the whole cake? What happens when the cake is gone? When we move into excessive mindset and behavior, what we are actually feeding is a mentality of lack.  We are trying to stockpile and enjoy the cake now because we’re already anticipating that moment when the cake is gone, so we better get our fill while we can.

I know that this could read as a giant “what not to do” list, so let’s leave Delphi and travel a bit further East for a bit of inspiration.

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Sthira-sukham asanam

Patanjali’s Yoga Sutra is the sacred writing that most modern yoga practice actually stems from. It’s a writing of philosophy and practice that talks about the true aim of yoga, which is a form of spiritual union.  So let’s pull this little gem out as a guidepost.  ‘Sthira-sukham asanam’ is most often translated to “posture (asana) [should be] stable (sthira) and comfortable (sukha)”.  That’s a great translation, but a more literal translation is “resolutely abide in a good space”.  *

Sthira can be translated to be firm, strong, courageous. Sukha is more literally gentle, joyful, virtuous. And while asana most often refers to yoga postures (at least in the West), it’s etymological root means to dwell, inhabit, to be present.  To me, this is a guidepost to manifesting amazingness! I’ve taken this to mean:

Joyfully and Courageously Be Present.

Joyful – check. Courageous – we got it.  Being present – this is where we frequently get tangled up.  Being present means to be fully engaged in the world in the way that it’s currently presenting itself to you. This means to be engaged and conscious with the actual, tangible world in front of you – not escaping it by gluing your nose to your smartphone, or by eating/drinking/shopping/whatevering the experience away. What’s probably the most difficult is not sinking into your world of thought that’s either aimed at playing the past over and over, or playing out the many potentials of the future to give yourself a since of escape (or to allow yourself time to brace for all the things that could go wrong).

You’ve gotta go out of your mind to get into your Soul. Breathe deeply. Dance madly. Allow yourself the space to be absolutely wild and crazy! The future that you’re manifesting is not divorced from the present that you’re living. The more we place a focus into the future without bringing it into the now, the more likely we are to use the art of manifestation as an escape instead of a tool of conscious co-creation.

There are lots of ways to get out of your mind and into your Soul, which will be what the third and final post in this series addresses.

Click here for part 3 of the Empaths and Manifesting series.

 

*See https://yogainternational.com/article/view/sthira-and-sukha-steadiness-and-ease for a great article on Sukha and Sthira in yoga practice BY ROBERT SVOBODA & SCOTT BLOSSOM, which is also where I pulled the translations from.

 

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Surviving Empathy: My Personal Toolkit

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I’m not going be one of those people that complain about their sensitivities, playing the victim card of “It’s so hard being so intuitive” (imagine the statement in the hushed whine of an ‘ultra spiritual person’ that sits non-judgementally in judgement of all of the ways that you could be more spiritually enlightened).  That being said, yes, sometimes it really is hard, especially for the natural empaths out there.

Empaths pick up on everyone emotions, especially the ‘louder’ (e.g. the more unpleasant) ones.  The same holds true for physical sensations, especially pain.  And trying to find the “off switch” is like trying to find your keys buried in the bottom of your purse or gym bag when you really REALLY need to get inside right now! That’s why I’d like to share my personal favorite ways of dealing with empathic overload.

There are a variety of ways to address excess emotional energy, and basically all of these ways involve grounding and clearing the energy off of you.

Favorite Stone for Dealing with Empathy:  Black Tourmaline

Black tourmaline is a fantastic grounding stone.  It’s also an AMAZING protector, helping to keep your energy field in tip top shape. I love the personality I feel from black tourmaline, and I also find it very helpful with keeping the ‘sticky’ electromagnetic energies at bay that you get from computers and like.  I wanted to lead with stones on this little list because it’s really easy to access the energy of stones for their intended purpose: you carry them. They can be in your pocket, in your bag, in a piece of pretty jewelry, tucked in your bra (yep, that’s right, I said it.)  With some stones, you can also make a gem elixir to bring that energy of grounding and protection directly into your body.  To make a gem elixir, place the stone in a clear glass or crystal bowl and pour water over it to cover it.  Then place the bowl in the sun for 3- 8 hours.  Alternatively, you can suspend the stone over boiling water for about 20 minutes, allowing the water vapor to condense on the stone and drip back down into the water. You can also just drop the stone in a water bottle and then allow healing energy to flow through your hands as you charge the water up. (This works especially well with Reiki.)  I’ve found the sunning method to produce the strongest results for me, and many people use this to produce an elixir that ‘enhances in potency per dilution priniciples’. (In other words, you would dilute it in the same way you would to create a homeopathic remedy).  I’m not that fancy, so I just drink the water though.  Some other stones you may want to look into for consideration:  Smoky Quartz, Hematite, Kyanite (especially the Black variety for empaths) and Citrine. ***Research the stones to make sure they are safe to make elixirs with. Some stones can leech poisonous or harmful minerals into the water. Other stones can dissolve into the water (such as selenite).***

Favorite ‘Break Glass in case of Emergency’ Method of Dealing with Empathy:  Heavy Food

That’s right.  EAT SOMETHING!!! And make it meaty and starchy if your diet allows.  This is a great way to bring yourself back into your own skin.  This is also a fairly socially acceptable thing.  Nobody is going to bat an eye if you say “I’m feeling a little spacy. I think I need a cheeseburger.” The danger in this way of dealing with ungroundedness is that you can become reliant on it.  You shouldn’t have to eat a crappy calorie laden meal to ground yourself. This should be reserved for those times that you just can’t shake everybody’s mess off of you.  And yes, it can still work for the vegetarians.  (I was vegan for a good long time, and trust me – the food trick worked without animal products). Potatoes seemed to work best for me, way better than veggie burgers.  You just want something heavy.  Other (healthier) ways of forcibly grounding that mess off of you is to wash your hands in very cold water,  or rub a spoon on the bottom of your feet. These ways can work just as well as a heavy meal, but, you know, I really like cheeseburgers.

Favorite Maintenance Method of Dealing with Empathy:  Spiritual Baths

Ok folks, if you’re empathically sensitive, you should really be taking yourself through grounding and centering (as well as visualized shielding) on a daily basis. That’s a given.  I do it several times a day actually.  But what I really enjoy:  a relaxing bathtub filled with hot water with blessed sea salt, hyssop and lavender essential oils.  Sometimes it’s a cup of apple cider vinegar and epsom salts.  Sometimes it’s an herbal blend for spiritual cleansing.  This helps to bring the brain back to center, and align the energies in the most amazing and relaxing way.  I try to do this at least once a week to help maintain my sunny disposition and keep the ickys off of me.  This is not a replacement for grounding and centering, nor should it take the place of daily meditation and exercise to help keep you in alignment.  Ideally, you should be sitting in meditation (which should included a grounding and centering) for about 10-15 minutes per day, exercising at least a half an hour every other day, and using techniques like a spiritual bath to help bolster your energies into alignment about once a week.

Other points to consider when dealing with empathy:

Getting enough sleep

Keeping your personal space uncluttered

Keeping your personal space clear of bad vibes

Feeding your Spirit (volunteering, spiritual groups/churches, etc.)

Journaling

Being in nature (especially ‘Earthing’ – go barefoot!)

Having someone to talk it out with

Knowing and honoring your self and your truth

Owning when it IS your emotion, even when you’d rather that it was someone else’s junk

This is a very short list of ways that you can keep your empathy as an ally, instead of letting turn into a dragon that you want to slay.  Trust me when I say it’s far better to deal with empathy in an ongoing/maintenance capacity than to let it overtake you and then you try to regain control.  And no, you’re not expected to be perfect.  There will be days where you say ‘Screw meditating/exercising/bathing/etc’.  You are allowed.  Just try a few of these methods and see if they work for you. Give it a shot, and if they don’t improve your quality of life, so be it – you can disregard them.  Not everything will work for everyone.  But if they don’t work for you now, try them again in a couple of months and see.

Also remember this is MY list of favorites. Which means that these are MY preferences.  That does NOT mean that these are going the BEST methods. Pick and choose, and let experience be your guide.  I hope that these tips speak equally to your soul and your sensibility.  And more than that, I hope that you have FUN trying them out!

Brightest Blessings!

 

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A Psychic’s Guide to Dreams

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Dreams are a realm that many people feel cut off from.  For millennia, dreams have been acknowledged as a source of spiritual guidance and inspiration, yet many of us have difficulty grasping this for the simple reason that they don’t remember their dreams. I’m lucky because I am a dreamer. I grew up in a family and culture that reveres the wisdom of the dream world, and uses it to guide us.  Most of the time my dreams are simply my subconscious processing the events of my day, possibly with a ‘hint’ of what’s to come.  Sometimes though, my dreams are the landscape of powerful wisdom lessons from my guides.

There is a distinctly different tone to these dreams – an air of spiritual importance.  Most frequently they are reminders of the spiritual lessons that I’m processing through, and offer a sense of hope, as well as guidance to better navigate my challenges.  Sometimes these dreams enact coming events, but this is rare. Most of the glimpses into future provided by my dreams are conveyed symbolically, which is the case with most people, and even the most prophetic dreams are still influenced by your own psyche.

I can tell when I’ve had such a dream by the emotional tone that it strikes.  Simply put, it ‘feels important, significant’.  When I wake with this feeling, I immediately grab my notebook and pen (kept on my nightstand) and begin to write the dream down. First, I outline the components that stand out the most. This is usually a simple list, such as: castle, ocean, harlequin and mermaid.  I also list all of the ‘characters’ that I recognize, which may be friends, family or even celebrities. Then I write the dream out in a narrative form.  The reason I make a list of components before I just write the dream out as a story? For me, these help to trigger stronger memories of the dream.  Sometimes by the time I’m writing the last part of my dream down in narrative form, I discover that I’m already forgetting details, or even entire sequences in the dream. The list helps me to piece more information together.

Once I’ve recorded my dream, I leave it alone for a bit. I have breakfast, relax and wake up. Then I revisit the dream and begin to try to interpret it.  At first glance, I’m frequently overwhelmed by this. I just do the best that I can to interpret the symbolism and write it down. Then I often get a second interpretation. I will work with another intuitive to see how they would interpret my dream, which usually opens a whole new arena of insight for me.  I feel that it’s always good to get an outside perspective, and this is frequently what helps me to feel confident in the messages that I’m receiving from my dreams.

Understanding your dreams is frequently a hurdle that many people don’t even get to enjoy because they don’t ever remember what happens in the dremascape. Some people don’t believe they dream at all! (Or if they do, they don’t think they can ever remember their dreams.) It’s my belief that you can train yourself to have a fantastic dream recall. Here are a few techniques and things to consider to help you remember your dreams.

First, you should consider your sleep schedule.  Are you getting enough sleep? If not, I’ve found that dream recall suffers. A good way to tell if you are getting enough sleep is by looking at how long you sleep on days that you can turn your alarm off and sleep in.  How much sleep do you get when you’re not being woken up by an alarm? Are you waking refreshed? Typically most people require between 7-10 hours of sleep a night. If no amount of sleep seems to ever be enough, then it’s probably time to check in with your doctor. Conditions such as sleep apnea can severely inhibit quality sleep time, making your sleep debt overwhelming. Believe or not, regular exercise can also help you feel stronger and more alert, as well as positively impact your sleep.

If you know that you’re getting enough sleep, but you still aren’t able to remember your dreams, then a few simple techniques and tricks can be employed.  The dream world is not generally valued in our modern day culture, so sometimes it’s a part of our own brain that blocks our memory of dreaming. This can be countered and redirected through the use of affirmations. When crafting an affirmation, make sure that the statement is put in the present tense, and is positive in it’s tone, such as “I have full recollection and understanding of my dreams.” Keeping it short and sweet has proven helpful to me as well. Repeat the affirmation at least 50 times to yourself as you lay in bed preparing for sleep. You don’t have to say it out loud, but it does help to at least move your lips as if you were speaking the affirmation.

You should also keep a dream journal and pen on your nightstand, and you should record an entry each morning even if you don’t recall your dreams. You should write in the journal upon waking before your feet touch the ground.  Your entry should begin “What I recall most vividly from my dream is……….”. Even if your entry reads “what I recall most vividly from my dream is nothing”, writing this down begins to show the importance you are ascribing to your dreams to your subconscious mind. This will train your brain to begin to store the dream memories in places where they can be more easily accessed by your conscious mind.

Many people like to pray for direction to come in their dreams.  This was commonly seen in old pagan temples, where people could pray to a particular god or spirit and sleep in their temple to dream for messages of healing or guidance. The biblical verse Deuteronomy 29:29 is frequently prayed repeatedly at night to ‘dream true’ in many Southern households. Any heartfelt appeal to spirit can be effective in inviting divine guidance into our dreams, but is not a substitute for the other techniques already discussed. It is lazy to assume that the realm of spirit should do all the work to get a message across to you if you aren’t willing to put in some work to have better dream recall.

The process of strengthening your dream recall frequently doesn’t bear immediate fruits.  Sometimes it can take weeks of dedicated affirmations and dream journal entries before you begin to remember bits and pieces of your dreams.  The more focus you put on working towards dream recall, the more that you will begin to be able to remember.

In short, make sure that you are getting enough quality sleep; keep a dream journal that you write in each morning before your feet hit the floor; use affirmations and prayers to strengthen your spiritual connection through dreams; and most importantly have patience – it may take a while to hone these skills. These tips and tricks will serve you well in learning to recall your dreams.

Remembering and understanding dreams can be daunting tasks, but the rewards are well worth the effort.  The insight and healing that you can derive from your dreamtime can aid in your healing, spiritual development, and general understanding of the world around you.  So grab your dream journal, tuck yourself in and, until next time, sweet dreams and brightest blessings,